Losing a child is something that no person should have to experience. Yet 15% of pregnancies in the UK end in miscarriage. 1 in 250 babies are stillborn.  A staggering 5000 terminations happen each year due to foetal anomalies. 

Within this element is also TRMR (Termination For Medical Reasons) which is still today a taboo subject. Whether is be a termination due to the baby not developing as they should, or because mum is experiencing a debilitating pregnancy related condition that is impacting her life so profoundly, this is still a loss and one that will be felt greatly and grieving will still happen. 

No matter the gestation, your baby existed and your pain is no less valid than any other loss. 

There is a huge array of emotions that come with the loss of a child. Anger, sadness, denial, numb...this list is endless. 

Then on top of all the feelings, people simply don't know how to talk to you. They don't know what to say. People fear making you feel worse. When in actual fact, you might just need to just be. Words might not need to be spoken. Just sitting with someone and holding their hand and simply saying nothing can be so incredibly powerful. 

I have completed training with the incredible charities Sands and The Foundation for Infant Loss on working with all people impacted by the loss of a child, infertility and pregnancy after a loss. This includes birthing people, partners, grandparents and anyone else who feels they need to speak to someone.